Lust and desire are a gateway for humans to learn what true love actually is.

Modern love usually begins with physical attraction, rooted in our biological and animalistic nature—a love where pleasure and pain are deeply intertwined. However, this biological pull shouldn't be dismissed.

Everything that exists has its purpose.

Physical attraction serves as our pathway to learn and transcend into a connection that moves beyond the body, into the realms of mind and soul. An authentic relationship can start with a physical spark and grow into something much deeper—like supporting each other through difficult times and inspiring each other to become the best versions of yourselves.

This principle doesn't just apply to romantic partners, but to all types of relationships.

If a relationship remains purely physical, even if it doesn't end, it will eventually feel hollow inside. A long-term, healthy connection requires more than physical chemistry—it needs deep appreciation for each other's heart and mind.

At the highest level, connection transcends the individual. It becomes a partnership to create something greater than yourselves, something that benefits others.

Physical connections are an important way for us to learn and grow—to eventually discover what true love actually is: unconditional and compassionate.

Nothing is inherently good or bad. For a wise person, every experience becomes a chance to grow.

I created this meditation on motherhood to offer a more balanced perspective, as the discussion is so often simplified and politicized. This is a short, calming meditation on the profound lessons of unconditional love and personal growth that the spiritual journey of motherhood can teach.

Motherhood is one of nature's most profound classrooms—an opportunity for humans to experience and learn what unconditional love truly is. Anyone who has been a mother knows it is unconditional acceptance and forgiveness. She holds her child with the kind of love that always embraces you no matter who you are.

It mirrors the compassion of the universe, like divine love for all beings. Being a mother is a direct way for humans to experience that kind of love.

But in our modern world, relationships between many mothers and their children are often filled with conflict. This happens because motherhood, which calls for unconditional love, often clashes with the human ego.

To be a mother requires immense wisdom. When you sacrifice so much for someone you love so deeply, a mother must learn that her child is not her possession. Every child is an independent individual with their own thoughts and path in life. At a certain stage, she must learn to let go.

Instead of interfering and controlling, what's needed is understanding and respect. This is often the hardest lesson in love, and it's true not just for motherhood, but for all relationships.

What causes pain is the desire to control—to wish for everything to turn out exactly as expected, to manipulate, to possess. That is attachment, not true love.

It is not love that leads to pain. It is attachment, born from the human ego, that causes our suffering. Learning how to love without the pain is one of the greatest lessons we must learn in our lives.

A wise person can achieve incredible growth—spiritually, mentally, and emotionally—through the experience of being a mother.

Today, many people view motherhood as purely burdensome. But nothing is absolutely negative, and for a wise person, every experience can be a chance to grow.

So why would anyone want to become a mother? With so much sacrifice, what is there to gain? Ask someone who is already a mother. She has gained joy, happiness, and a love beyond measure—the love that conquers all fear. Even with all the sacrifices, your mother has never once regretted having you.

Why does a soldier on the battlefield think of his mother? He knows, instinctively, that love can give him the courage to face his fears. Violence and hatred cannot solve problems, as they only lead to more hatred. Violence cannot conquer violence, but love and compassion can.

If we look at the source, all existence is fundamentally equal. The universe makes no distinction of "superior" or "inferior."

True equality is not about making everyone identical like a copy-and-paste scenario but begins when humanity starts to see the world without a discriminating mind.

For example, dark and white skin are objective facts of biology. But the long history of linking one color to superiority and another to inferiority is a subjective standard created by humans; these judgments have no inherent reality in the universe itself.

As long as the human mind continues to judge and separate, inequality will always find a way to exist.

Even if we eliminate all external differences—like achieving perfect economic equality, or everyone having the same skin color—the human tendency to discriminate would simply find new ground. For example, on appearance, on intelligence, on influence.

So, the solution to inequality is not about making everyone the same—that is an impossible task. It is about reaching a state where, when we see our differences, the impulse to judge them as "superior" or "inferior" no longer arises in our hearts.

It's not about creating sameness, but about seeing each other as equal in a world where our differences will always exist. It's not about the external material condition, but about our internal perspective.

We spend so much of our energy trying to solve inequality externally, on the material level. But that's only half of the answer.

The other half lies in the realm of consciousness. It is a dimension we often overlook, one that requires us to turn inward, to look at our own patterns of thought and judgment.

Our modern world has created tools of incredible external intelligence, but we have largely failed to explore and navigate our internal world.

To solve the great challenges of our time, we must seek answers in both the external, material world and the internal, spiritual one.

External progress, such as technology and the pursuit of equality, loses its direction without an internal compass of wisdom and philosophical guidance. In turn, progress in consciousness without support from the material world is a powerless vision that struggles to unfold.

The solution requires more than just a top-down governance approach; it demands the bottom-up transformation of every individual. This will be the great work of our time.

A Concluding Thought

True equality is not about everyone being identical. Diversity is a gift the universe gives to humanity, but it is humans who exploit that diversity to create the judgments that satisfy the ego.

However, we shouldn't deny the ego, which comes from the human biological instinct of self-preservation.

Our survival instinct teaches us the law of the jungle, where the strong devour the weak. But the reason humans are different from animals is that we have the ability to imagine a world that transcends our basic survival instinct.

Ego has created warfare, conflict and pain. But our spiritual capability teaches us to love and forgive our enemies, to create a society where the weak are supported.

Living Your Own Life Well

To be able to live your life well and be the source of your own happiness is the prerequisite for any healthy connection. A good relationship is one where two people inspire each other to become better.

When you are in a state of emotional and spiritual abundance you will naturally attract a similar companion. But when you are in a state of insecurity and neediness the connections you attract may not be the ones that nourish you, but rather ones you cling to as an escape from your own life.

It's not to say there won't be beautiful moments, but they are often filled with possession, attachment, and jealousy.

These relationships born from scarcity are almost always accompanied by pain. When you are coming from a place of inner abundance, you will discover that a good partner is a beautiful addition, not a necessity. They are a partner in mutual growth, not a solution for the inability to be alone.

A relationship of true quality is a union of two people who are emotionally stable and secure in themselves. They can give to and support one another, walking towards a better life, becoming better versions of themselves.

But a relationship rooted in scarcity will likely fall into a state where both partners are constantly taking. (Even some acts of giving on the surface, in essence, a form of taking—done not from love, but from expectation.)

You know the other person cannot give you what you want, yet you remain trapped in the connection, unable to leave.

What You Seek is Already Within You

The things you need can actually be found within yourself. When your own core is unstable—when you are lacking love, attention, or recognition—you will grasp outwardly.

You will expect to receive a steady, unchanging love from someone else. You will become obsessed with their every reaction.

And because of this, you may stay in toxic relationship for far too long, unable to walk away. To look for support in the external is to build your house on shifting sands, the love you received you will hold it with anxiety, compromising what your heart truly wants just to please another.

The Agency of Your Own Life

No one else can live your life for you. The agency over your life is, and always will be, in your own hands. Do not wait for a savior to appear. The only person who can truly pull you out of the emotional turmoil is yourself.

You do not have to be perfect. But genuine, quality companions are often met on the road of living earnestly, of being daringly yourself, of striving upwards.

Life is Ultimately Lived Alone

No matter who you live your life with, no matter how intimate the bond, life, in essence, is about living alone. The nature of life is a solo journey. No one can live it for you.

So, for the connections you are gifted along the way, treasure them. Treat them well. And in the end, you will take all the lessons, the growth, and the love, and carry them with you into the next chapter of your journey.

Stage One: The Self-Focused Reaction

This is the most primal stage, a state of pure emotion. Our focus is entirely on ourselves. We are trapped in feelings of anger and misunderstanding, asking: "Why is this happening to me? How could they treat me this way?" We cannot see beyond our own pain.

Stage Two: The Path of Reflection

Here, we begin to turn inward. We start to examine our own role in the conflict and consider the other person's perspective. We ask ourselves: "Could I have handled this better? Is it possible their reaction had valid reasons?"

Stage Three: Emotional Maturity

At this stage, a true emotional maturity emerges. We are able to understand and accept the other person's limitations, recognizing their own struggles and the circumstances that may have been beyond their control.

There is a generosity of spirit here—an ability to hold space for the actions of others with an open heart, and to resolve conflict calmly. It is the wisdom of an elder who can understand the struggles of the young because they have walked that path themselves.

This is the wisdom of knowing when to take a step back to see a broader view. By accepting others, we also learn to accept ourselves.

We reflect on our mistakes, but we also acknowledge our own limitation. We can admit when we are wrong, forgive ourselves, and actively continue to grow.

To reach this stage is a sign of a truly mature mind, and it has nothing to do with age.

Stage Four: Awareness

(This is where modern psychology often stops)

Here, we develop an awareness of the patterns behind our actions. We recognize that all behavior has underlying triggers, and that hurtful actions often stem from past wounds.

For example, a person who constantly seeks validation may have a deep history of not being recognized. Those who were deprived of love in their childhood may cling to unhealthy relationships.

Stage Five: Seeing Interconnected Causes

In this stage, we understand that the cause of things is never as simple as it appears on the surface.

We begin to see the vast, interwoven causality of the universe, where all conditions merge and flow together.

The grand pageant of the world begin to feel like a temporary play. We realize there is no need to be so entangled in them, no need to obsess over every gain and loss. We come to trust that every experience is here to help us grow.

Stage Six: Unshakable Peace

This is the stage of tranquil acceptance. Nothing can disturb the peace within.

We look upon all people and all things without judgment—without the labels of "good" or "bad," "right" or "wrong."

Like watching a river flow, we observe everything as it happens. We can navigate the storms of the world, witness the joys and sorrows of humanity, and yet, within our own heart, abide in deep peace and a quiet clarity.